I found this pretty interesting
FTFA:
“My point with this is not to be a sob story, but to tell you that for a lower-mid-range worker, sometimes your dream job can’t make up for the cost of living in the Bay Area. It can easily work for a single 20- or 30-something with no family and a few roommates, and they can prosper greatly from it if they’re able to save responsibly. Especially for those that have basic needs that can be simply attended to by a company’s excellent benefits packages that include meals, laundry, and transportation. But for a person with a family of four who has a certain lifestyle that they want to try to maintain (a nice-ish $40,000 car, the ability to go out once a month and leave the kids with a sitter, a house that wasn’t last remodeled in ’70s, etc.), it can be difficult.”
You could blame him for wasting money on a fancy car. You could also blame him for wanting to live in a house that is up-to-date (a rarity in the bay area). However, I think the point is that he can get all of that (and more) by just moving elsewhere. Why suffer in the valley when you can thrive in the desert of arizona?