Oh dear! I take the kids out for exercise and lunch, and come back to a flame war!
I do think that my husband underestimates how good he has it with a SAHM. He can come home whenever he likes unless i have something planned that evening (rare–twice a month maybe). He generally has dinner waiting, and doesn’t have to do the cleaning (not that I’m very good at it). He doesn’t do kid-sick-days (well, twice in 8 years–I had a school volunteer commitment I couldn’t get out of), and he doesn’t have to stay up late with sick kids. He doesn’t deal with house fixit.
But I’ll agree with MM_HH–SAHM doesn’t reduce my stress, but it does reduce his… whether he realizes or appreciates it or not.
SAHM has the privilidge and authority. A king or queen may have some stress, but it’s better to be a king/queen than a worker bee under the weight of the management and shareholders.
There’s a difference in a king’s stress and a bread earner’s stress.
Some people prefer stay home, some people prefer working. But I guess more people prefer staying home.
Yes, you might not be bishop material. But who wants to be a bishop when he can be the king?
A high EQ person won’t be easily offended, but you are dealing with low EQ people most of time!!! A high EQ person is as rare as a person with a high IQ…
True story: When my lil sis and her doctor hubby tried to conceive their first child no go. No go for awhile. They were living in Boston at the time while he was finishing up med school. Let’s be honest, they had probably the best doctors in the world to look at them to figure out what happened. They simply said nope can’t do it. Lil sis and hubby decide to adopt. Once they signed on the dotted line, shortly after, she gets pregnant…naturally!!!
Probably just stress from work/school and then performance anxiety stress (ok, honey, I’m fertile…right now!!!)
Story ends fine: two babies (one 1 year older) Uncle Sfdragonboy has to add to his red envelop distribution list…
Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice.
Freedom of speech? You can express yourself, even if it offends a few people. You are also offended sometimes.
Everyone can offend anyone. Everyone can be offended or annoyed. Try to mitigate it. But some people will pretend to be offended by your words or actions all the time. Real world is not perfect, it’s ok and it’s natural
What if someone doesn’t like to be sweared at? Do you insist on using foul language with them? What about calling people names? Where is he line?
Is banning the n-word PC? Chinese people used to be called dogs. Is that fine because of “freedom of speech”?
What you don’t want to be subject to, don’t do to others.
People are far more polite when they talk face to face. Thus my simple rule is this: will you say the same thing if this is not an anonymous forum, but instead a real like party? If the answer is no, then you have crossed the line.
And it’s not even that uncommon. And the other frequent story is how the first one was so hard conceive, might even require IVF, and then comes #2 without any warning. Never assume that infertility is permanent.
No my current workplace is okay. My comment was based on past experiences at former employers as I refused to be a novice. Now I’m closer to being a semi Taijin master per @hanera’s dictionary.
And it’s not even that uncommon. And the other frequent story is how the first one was so hard conceive, might even require IVF, and then comes